Hey love seekers,
Up until this point we’ve put a lot of focus on finding love, creating that perfect relationship, and getting really clear on how we want show up in those relationships. While it is all so so important, we can’t forget the good stuff– sex!
Sex, sensuality, intimacy– it is all a part of creating that foundation to a solid relationship. In fact, women who are more in touch with their sensuality and sexual presence are more likely to create an atmosphere for lasting relationship than those that are more closed off (and that is NOT because they’re filling the sexual appetites of their partners). It is actually quite the opposite.
By tapping into your sensual nature you actually release oxytocin, serotonin, phenyl ethylamine, and endorphins into your brain, allowing you to bond emotionally with your partner. (It’s a fact, look it up!) As an added bonus, you will feel less stressed, maybe even a sense of euphoria, and even less pain (More perks.Yay!)
So, clearly, sex is more than just something we do to keep our partners happy. This is our physical expression of our sensual nature, yet another way to say, “I care deeply for you, and I choose to be connected to you in this way so you may experience me on a much deeper level.”
But here’s the thing. More often than not I will hear a woman say that everything was going great until they had sex. If the sex isn’t fulfilling, than the relationship is tainted. And they’re right. You can’t feel truly fulfilled if you’re not fulfilled in all areas of the relationship. So how do we do that? How do we make them better?
We don’t (Sorry, I don’t have a magic pill for you). You can’t force your partner to change, but if you can strengthen that sensual muscle within yourself, I promise you will have that mind-blowing, all-fulfilling sex you’re looking for, without having to be an acrobatic genius.
So without further adieu, here are a few tips on how to create a more fulfilled sexual experience:
1. Be More in Your Body, Less in Your Head.
Let yourself go, and embrace your body. It is perfect as it is. You are magnificent just as you are. There’s no need to feel self conscious about you who you are or what you look like. Your partner clearly loves it, or else you wouldn’t be doing what you’re doing.
2. Make it About the Experience, Not the Positions.
Again, you do NOT, I repeat, do NOT need to be an acrobatic genius to be magnificent in bed. True sexual pleasure is achieve in the emotional connection. Sure you can have a 5 minute wam-bam thank you ma’am, but if you’re looking for chemistry and relationship, you’re looking for more than a physical pleasure. You’re looking for the experience that says, “there more to this person than meets the eye.” Be present. Be vulnerable. Be open to giving love, and be open to receiving it. That is where the true magic happens.
3. Live Each Moment Through the Lense of Sensuality.
Believe it or not, you can create mind-blowing sexual pleasure even when you’re not having sex! It’s called sensuality, feeling alive in each and every moment. Sensuality is not the same thing as sexuality, but it is the element we ultimately are igniting through sex that makes us in touch with ourselves and our partners. Sensuality is very often confused with something that is an external thing that you have to do to turn somebody else on. When it’s the opposite. It is something internal you do to turn yourself on.
4. Don’t Be Afraid to Explore.
Maybe you’re not entirely sure of what you want or what you like. Or maybe you know what you like, but it’s just not cutting it for you anymore. Fantastic! Try something new. Ask your partner to support you in exploring what you like together. Not only does this make the experience much more intimate, it makes it fun, exciting, spontaneous. It allows your partner to not only support you while also allowing both of you to grow as partners and lovers.
5. Say What You Want, And Say it Proudly!
This ties in with the point we just made. If you want to explore, say it! If you aren’t liking something, say it! Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want. Your partner wants to please you as much as you want to please them. So help them out and just tell them. Note: Confidence is sexy!
6. Make Time For Pleasure.
It is so easy to get caught in the hustle and bustle of life, so that even when we want to be intimate our minds are too preoccupied with all of those to-do’s. It almost then becomes a necessity to have sex just to make sure you keep your partner hooked. What’s the fun in that?!
The longer you are in a relationship, the harder it becomes to have your time together. Schedule it in if you have to. The fact that you are prioritizing your partner to make the time speaks mountains of just how much you love that. (Note: Showing your partner they are worthy of your love is sexy!) That kind of declaration of love will make your partner want to give you all that they’ve got. And trust me, that kind of conviction leads to quite an amazing experience.
There you have it! 6 key ingredients for the mind-blowing sex you’ve been waiting for. You’ve got the goods. Trust that they are enough, and go for it!
Spreading the love,